Am I Separated?

26 March 2019

You may be thinking this is a strange question… But, the fact is that in almost every matter we are involved in, the couple disagrees on their date of separation. This may sometimes be inconsequential, such as a few days or a week but, quite often, it is a much longer period. The Family Court recently considered a disputed date of separation that was 6 years apart.

What is separation?

Separation in the context of Family Law is when either the married or de facto partnership breaks down. Separation requires a degree of communication. This means that either both parties agree that the relationship has ended or one party communicates to the other that they consider the relationship over. Whilst literally separation is a physical parting, in the Family Law context it can also include circumstances, where the parties continue living in a common residence referred to as “separation under the one roof”.

Separation under the one roof:

There is no legal obligation (barring a Court Order to the contrary) that requires a party to leave the home on separation. In fact, often parties will remain under the same roof in the intervening period. Possibly, until such time as issues relating to children and/or property are resolved.

Am I able to divorce whilst separated under the one roof?

Yes, provided you meet two conditions. Firstly, the married couple must be separated for a period of not less than 12 months. Secondly, they will need to provide an affidavit from a third party which states that despite living under the one roof they are, in fact, separated.

Can I get divorced sooner if we are living separately and apart?

No, you are still required to meet the first condition, which is separation for a period of at least 12 months.

What happens if we reconcile for a period of time?

If you reconcile for 3 months or less, you can rely on your original separation date, as long as the total period of separation (excluding any reconciliation) is at least 12 months.

If you reconcile in more than 3 months, then the 12-months-time period will restart from the date of the most recent separation date.

Do I have to give a reason for separation?

No. Gone are the days when the Court required married couples to provide a fault-based reason for separation should they wish to divorce.  These days, however, the sole and only reason for separation is an “irretrievable breakdown” of the marriage.

How is separation different for de facto couples?

The fundamental difference is that de facto couples do not need to divorce, so the 12 month time period does not apply. Like married couples, de facto couples can continue to live separated under the one roof.

Do I have to wait 12 months to sort out our property and child matters?

No, in fact we would recommend that you seek legal advice and commence the process of settling property and children’s matters right away.

What steps should I take if I intend to separate?

Whilst it is not always possible, it is highly recommended that a party seeks legal advice before separation.

Often, many of the legal pitfalls of separation can be avoided if a party is armed with the necessary knowledge. Also, when a party has a plan in place for moving forward. Once this advice is obtained it is important to communicate to the other party that separation has occurred. So that there can be no dispute as to the date of separation. This step is particularly important should a party choose to remain living under the one roof.

We are here to act in your best interest and to help you achieve the best outcome possible. Our initial consultation is fixed price. To make an appointment to discuss your personal circumstances, please phone us on (07) 3221 4300. You can also email us at law@mlynch.com.au or enquire using the contact form, below.

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